programmed or learned

i have always enjoyed charles stanley and this weekend was watching him while flipping through channels but i was dissappointed. he was talking about how parents need to "program their children." let me explain he said that teens are graduating from high school asking lots of questions and they are going off to college and having them answered the professors who are atheist and very liberal. he said that they were being programmed by these professors and said that it was the parents job to program them first.

first of all i am not a parent. so i am not sure how it works. but i do believe that programming isnt the best way of going about it. a child is not a piece of technology that has different software that can be downloaded or deleted any time one wants. i do believe that children are very ingrained to trust what the parent tells them. most of what a child sees in their parents behavior is learned and will be repeated. i know a very special girl who is five. she is one of the most caring individual who is able to care for her friends and is concerned about their feelings. was this something that she was born knowing what to do or was she able to learn this from spending lots of valuable time with her mother?

what is the difference of being programmed or learning these behaviors.i see the need to correct, train, rebuke and teach but i do not want my future children to believe just because i believe. i want them to own it, personalize their faith. i want to see them grow and be doctrinally grounded but i want them to search and question. i dont want to see them programmed but i want to see them believe.